We have all been there. You feel mentally and emotionally exhausted. A close friend, a family member or your spouse asks what is wrong or how things are going and you simply don’t have the energy to build that bridge between your emotions and your words. It is easier to simply utter the words you are used to saying without forcing yourself to use any further brain power to come up with a better excuse. You simply say “Oh, I’m just tired.”
Its a plausible enough answer. After all, working, household chores, kids, running errands and sometimes even blinking can be tiring. And it’s an excuse you’ve used thousands of times simply because you don’t have the energy, and honestly, you’re afraid people will think you are complaining. So it’s easier to say nothing. And it goes on, day after day. You don’t really put it into words. It just builds up. You don’t ask for help. So, instead of working on communicating more fluently with those around you, you remain silent.
It can be challenging and stressful trying to start on that journey of healthy communication with those around you. And it can be even more challenging trying to have a healthy internal communication. We can sometimes be our own worst enemies. We can make a list within a matter of seconds on what we think we need to do better, what we still have to do, what needs to be done, and a million little things in between that always seem to fall between the cracks.
The one thing we never seem to do is admit to being human and asking for help when we feel as though we are sinking. I know it is challenging. But you can do it. Asking for help doesn’t mean that you aren’t strong. Asking for help simply shows those around you that even strong people need help. Needing help, taking a moment to breathe, asking for assistance with something you’ve been fighting to get done all day, it isn’t weakness. It is more about knowing your limitations. You are still a person.
At the end of the day, no matter what titles you carry at work, what titles you carry at home, how much money you make or how big your house is, you are still a person. Carrying weight, responsibilities, cares, troubles, and concerns. I encourage you, love yourself enough to ask for help. Care for yourself enough to know that it isn’t shameful to need to care for your mental and emotional health. You try desperately to do everything you can to care for those around you, recognizing how important their mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health is. Yet your tank is running on empty at the end of the day.
Caring for yourself is necessary to maintaining the care of those around you.
You are brave, you are strong, you are courageous and you are capable. Don’t be afraid to step into yourself and the self-care you deserve.
You’ve got this!