There are times in life when we feel as though we don’t have enough time. If I had a penny for every time I’ve heard someone say “There isn’t enough hours in the day!” And to be honest, I’ve felt that way so many times.
But one thing I have found that has helped me hang on to a feeling of normalcy is creating a routine for myself. You create a routine for your children, or we try to at least. We create a routine so we can get our other chores done and still feel like we can earn a living and spend time with the family. A very hard thing to juggle at times with the cost of living on the increase and stress around every corner. But, do you have a place in your routine?
I will admit that for the longest time, I didn’t. I was so focused on my kids, my husband, the bills, work, cooking and cleaning, that I felt amazed and relieved if I could get in a shower before bed and it wasn’t 11:30pm. It took me what felt like an eternity to learn that if I don’t care for myself, I can’t continue the upkeep of caring for those precious ones around me. And when that realization hits, it hits hard.
I know it can feel like a challenge to even consider thinking about carving out a small chunk of time for yourself. It can feel overwhelming and you may even feel, dare I say, selfish. Yet, I can say that if you do this one small thing for yourself, it will make a world of difference in how you feel. Daily.
The one routine I started with for myself was very simple. A nightly facial routine.
It didn’t take me more than 10 minutes but it gave me a few moments to breathe. The feeling of washing my face with hot water. Feeling fresh and allowing myself to enjoy my facial routine. That is where I started. It seemed small but it meant the world to me.
I encourage each of you. Even if it feels hard. Even if you wonder where you will carve out the time for yourself. Start a small routine. Stick to it daily. Make it non-negotiable. And you will start to feel the positive affects.
Need Ideas? I’ve compiled a list of a few things that may help you start toward having a few moments for yourself.
- If you are religious, take 5-10 minutes to read your Bible or other holy scriptures.
- Take 5-10 minutes to list any victories you feel you gained throughout the day. Write down how those positive things made you feel.
- Soak your feet in warm water for 5-10 minutes. (My kids were always curious about me doing this. They would end up with their feet in the water too. And that meant they were sitting still for 5-10 minutes doing nothing but wiggling their toes in warm water. You’re welcome!)
- Start a facial routine that is easy for you to keep up with. My routine has changed and evolved through time but feel free to improvise and do what makes you feel best.
- Try focusing on your breathing. Sit in a comfortable place (on your bed, on your favorite rug, on the couch, in an arm chair) and close your eyes. Allow your attention to drift to the feeling of taking a long, slow breath into your body. Then slowly release this breath. Your mind may wander but that is normal and human nature for our minds to wander. Bring your attention back to the feeling of just breathing, and relax into this feeling.
The above are simply suggestions to help you figure out a small routine to give you a few moments for yourself. I hope this helps you on your journey back toward self-love and self-care!
You give so much to those around you. You are worth it!